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30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 30: How I Avoided Going In Over My Head

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 30: How I Avoided Going In Over My Head

When I was three, I started taking dance classes and loved them so much that I stuck with them for almost 20 years.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 28: One Small No that Adds up to a Big Yes

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 28: One Small No that Adds up to a Big Yes

I always try to be a good guest when I’m at someone’s home. I’ll always bring something to add to the meal like wine or dessert, help clean up and not make a mess nor a fuss.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 27: The Secret to Bringing My A Game

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 27: The Secret to Bringing My A Game

After living in New York City for almost (gulp) 19 years, one of the things that I love is bumping into people I know or haven’t seen in a while in any number of places. At a show, on the subway platform, on the street, you name it. It should be noted that the only place this rarely happens is in Times Square because locals avoid it like the plague.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 26: It Can't Hurt to Ask

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 26: It Can't Hurt to Ask

Quite often, I work with clients who become friends or friends who become clients. I love it, but sometimes things can get a little tricky, especially when it comes to money.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 24: Sick Days and The Showcase Showdown

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 24: Sick Days and The Showcase Showdown

When I was a kid, I rarely took a sick day. It may have only happened once or twice and when it did, you better believe watching “The Price is Right” was on the agenda.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 22: So Tell Me What You Want, What You Really, Really Want

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 22: So Tell Me What You Want, What You Really, Really Want

I try my best not to be difficult or complain too much and no where is that more apparent than at a restaurant. I hate to send food back. For one, I don’t want to be fussy, and I don’t want to make everyone I’m eating with wait for me at the end.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 21: My Version of March Madness

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 21: My Version of March Madness

I’m heading to the airport at 7:30 a.m. to surprise my mom for her 75th birthday in Florida. My father, two younger sisters and I have tried to surprise her in the past with limited success. She’s pretty smart and picks up on the subtlest of things.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 20: I Should Have Namaste-d Home

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 20: I Should Have Namaste-d Home

I’ve taken a fair number of yoga classes in my life and have seen all kinds of instructors. Last week was the close talker, which I understand will happen when they’re teaching, but she did this before class started. It was a packed class, so as she got closer and closer to my face, I felt trapped. I had nowhere to go. Luckily, she didn’t have coffee breath.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 18: What You Talking About, Willis?

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 18: What You Talking About, Willis?

About a month ago, the Wienermobile was in the news because they were looking for the next round of Wienermobile drivers aka Hotdoggers. As a former Hotdogger, friends posted this news from various media outlets all over my Facebook wall and I loved it. I also get a lot of ice cream news posted on my wall, which is very sweet (pun intended).

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 15: Roxane Gay Made Me Do It

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 15: Roxane Gay Made Me Do It

I’ve heard that multitasking can make you less productive, which is a bummer. I try to be as productive as possible, especially when it comes to phone calls.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 14: Step Back Before You Do Something You'll Regret

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 14: Step Back Before You Do Something You'll Regret

I try my best to respond to people as quickly as I can and be helpful whenever I can. However, my desire to help people out can get me into trouble sometimes. I know that seems counter-intuitive, but hear me out.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 12: Spring Cleaning My Inbox

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 12: Spring Cleaning My Inbox

As I pointed out in yesterday’s post, I realized that I’ve been saying more to things that are distracting me than telling people no (although I’m doing that, too.) See? That’s the beauty of doing a challenge like this. You see what unfolds and how it applies to different areas of your life.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 11: How I Stopped Spinning My Wheels

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 11: How I Stopped Spinning My Wheels

When I started this month’s challenge about saying no, I thought it was going to be mostly me literally saying no to people. What I’ve realized after doing it for 11 days is that a lot of it is about simplifying things in my life. Saying no to invites, events and really anything that pulls my focus.

30-Day Trust Challenge Day 10: Late Night (Snacking) With Robin Gelfenbien

30-Day Trust Challenge Day 10: Late Night (Snacking) With Robin Gelfenbien

When my Mom was pregnant with me, she had a hiatal hernia, so the doctor told her not to eat solid foods at night. That’s when she turned to ice cream and who could blame her? Every night she’d watch the 11:00 news and let that cool sweet creamy nectar slide down her throat, into her belly and into my bloodstream.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 7: Oops, I Did It Again

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 7: Oops, I Did It Again

As I mentioned in a recent blog post, I get easily distracted when I go to my co-working space. I see new and old friends there and I love catching up with them. The problem is that it takes me away from my work because I have a hard time with boundaries, saying no, politely excusing myself and more.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 6: How to Ghost PEN15

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 6: How to Ghost PEN15

Yesterday after a few meetings, I popped over to my co-working space to get some work done before heading home. When I arrived, they were setting up for an event, which meant I was going to be hard-pressed to get much done. Damnit!

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 5: What Would We Do Without MySpace?

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 5: What Would We Do Without MySpace?

Lately I’ve been working from home a lot and while I love it for the incredible focus I get, I can get a little down from time to time. I’m a complete extrovert and feed off of other people, so going to my co-working space can remedy that in no time, but it can also get me into trouble. Since I love people so much, I also love to talk to them (A LOT) and that can get me off schedule.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 3: What Would Susan Lucci Do?

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 3: What Would Susan Lucci Do?

When The Moth (a popular storytelling series based in New York City) has a theme for one of their Story SLAMS (an open mic) that is perfect for one of my stories, I get tickets tout de suite.