30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 23: A Step in the Right Direction

I’m heading home in a cab feeling pretty crappy. All day I haven’t been interested in eating much beyond bland foods and I just want to get home and get into bed.

We hit traffic, but I’m markedly calmer than I was for Friday’s trip to the airport. The ride home from JFK is long, but I can see out the window perfectly. This is key for someone like me who gets car sick easily. Being able to open the window helps, too, which I do on the opposite side of the backseat.

The driver is incredibly nice and friendly. We chat for a while, but unlike most of the time, I’m not interested in making small talk. That’s how you can tell when I don’t feel good. I don’t want to talk to anyone.

We finally make it into the city and I want to get home as fast as possible. I don’t want to repeat what happened with the cab driver on Friday - taking some circuitous route when I know going through the park is the quickest. Normally on my way home, I wouldn’t say anything, but this time is different. My bed is calling me.

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This guy seems nice, so I ask him politely, “Will we be going through the park?”

Much to my surprise and delight, he says, “Yes, that is what Waze is telling me to do, but I will go whichever way you would like.”

I say, “Whatever Waze is telling you is fine with me.”

Then, he repeats, “I’m really fine to go whichever way you’d like. Just tell me. You know this area better than I do.”

I feel like I’m looking in the mirror. This guy is as much of a people pleaser as I am and I appreciate it. I can tell that he really cares.

I say, “No, it’s really fine. Thank you.”

I get home, unpack and hit the hay as soon as I can happy that I said no to worrying about upsetting other people. I could tell that this guy would have bent over backwards for me, so this time, instead of me bending over backwards feeling guilty for asking for what I wanted, I stretched myself and said no to worrying about his feelings and taking care of my own.

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