saying no

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 30: How I Avoided Going In Over My Head

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 30: How I Avoided Going In Over My Head

When I was three, I started taking dance classes and loved them so much that I stuck with them for almost 20 years.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 28: One Small No that Adds up to a Big Yes

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 28: One Small No that Adds up to a Big Yes

I always try to be a good guest when I’m at someone’s home. I’ll always bring something to add to the meal like wine or dessert, help clean up and not make a mess nor a fuss.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 27: The Secret to Bringing My A Game

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 27: The Secret to Bringing My A Game

After living in New York City for almost (gulp) 19 years, one of the things that I love is bumping into people I know or haven’t seen in a while in any number of places. At a show, on the subway platform, on the street, you name it. It should be noted that the only place this rarely happens is in Times Square because locals avoid it like the plague.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 26: It Can't Hurt to Ask

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 26: It Can't Hurt to Ask

Quite often, I work with clients who become friends or friends who become clients. I love it, but sometimes things can get a little tricky, especially when it comes to money.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 24: Sick Days and The Showcase Showdown

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 24: Sick Days and The Showcase Showdown

When I was a kid, I rarely took a sick day. It may have only happened once or twice and when it did, you better believe watching “The Price is Right” was on the agenda.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 22: So Tell Me What You Want, What You Really, Really Want

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 22: So Tell Me What You Want, What You Really, Really Want

I try my best not to be difficult or complain too much and no where is that more apparent than at a restaurant. I hate to send food back. For one, I don’t want to be fussy, and I don’t want to make everyone I’m eating with wait for me at the end.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 19: I Am Not a Flake

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 19: I Am Not a Flake

I hate to cancel on anyone. If I do it, it’s usually for good reason and I’m honest about it. If I have to reschedule more than once, I do my best not to. Even though people are generally pretty understanding, I still try to work it out no matter how busy I am, especially if it’s a new person that I’m trying to meet up with.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 18: What You Talking About, Willis?

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 18: What You Talking About, Willis?

About a month ago, the Wienermobile was in the news because they were looking for the next round of Wienermobile drivers aka Hotdoggers. As a former Hotdogger, friends posted this news from various media outlets all over my Facebook wall and I loved it. I also get a lot of ice cream news posted on my wall, which is very sweet (pun intended).

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 15: Roxane Gay Made Me Do It

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 15: Roxane Gay Made Me Do It

I’ve heard that multitasking can make you less productive, which is a bummer. I try to be as productive as possible, especially when it comes to phone calls.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 14: Step Back Before You Do Something You'll Regret

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 14: Step Back Before You Do Something You'll Regret

I try my best to respond to people as quickly as I can and be helpful whenever I can. However, my desire to help people out can get me into trouble sometimes. I know that seems counter-intuitive, but hear me out.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 11: How I Stopped Spinning My Wheels

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 11: How I Stopped Spinning My Wheels

When I started this month’s challenge about saying no, I thought it was going to be mostly me literally saying no to people. What I’ve realized after doing it for 11 days is that a lot of it is about simplifying things in my life. Saying no to invites, events and really anything that pulls my focus.

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 3: What Would Susan Lucci Do?

30-Day Just Say No Challenge Day 3: What Would Susan Lucci Do?

When The Moth (a popular storytelling series based in New York City) has a theme for one of their Story SLAMS (an open mic) that is perfect for one of my stories, I get tickets tout de suite.